I can't cope with the stress/pressure of my new job, any advice?

I've been working for a company based in Scotland for the last 5 months. At first I was on a temporary contract and was working in London at another organisation for them, I had only been at their Scottish site for a few weeks before I was sent down South.





I started a full-time contract with them last week and have gone back up to Scotland for the time being.





I am being trained to do new things which is good, but after a few hours of being shown what to do (during which they are often too busy so have to rush off every few minutes) they seem to think that I'm ';expert'; enough to cope with it on my own, even when I voice my concerns.





I am depressed enough at being away from my friends/family who are down South, let alone coping with unrealistic deadlines for essentially a new employee. I find myself dreading going to work the next day and feel physically sick. I spoke with my boss about the ';training'; and basically he said not to worry but that's just the way it is.I can't cope with the stress/pressure of my new job, any advice?
I'm in a similar situation to that.





I would suggest that you aim to stick it out for a year. It doesn't look good on your CV anyway if you change jobs too frequently, but it's even worse when it seems that you've moved into a more senior position than what you've been in previously and you can't handle it. If you can say you've tried it for a year and it didn't work out then fine, but any less time than that and it's almost like you're running away from things.





Try to make as many friends as you can in your workplace. Not only will this stop you missing your friends and family at home, but you'll find that this makes you more comfortable about the lack of formal training. If you're not sure how to do something, you'll be more comfortable saying to your mate ';hey, can you help me with this for a second?'; than you would be if you have to rush off and find your manager each time you have a question.





I don't know if your company has a system in place for you to have monthly 1-to-1s with your manager, but if not, I think you should approach your manager and ask if you could have them, at least while you're still new. You can then use this time to reflect upon what you have been taught during the past month and to ask any questions that you may still have regarding it.





In terms of the deadlines, if you really can't meet them then just push back and say so. I don't mean to sound patronising, but you sound like you're quite young and unfortunately, young people are often afraid to be assertive. If someone gives you a deadline that you really can't meet, or that you could but only if you dropped all your other work which clearly isn't fair to the other people that you're working for, then simply say ';I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be able to get it done by then as I'm tied up with xxx. I'll be able to get it to you by 5:00pm, though.'; As long as you remain polite at all times and let them know when you can do something by, people will accept that.I can't cope with the stress/pressure of my new job, any advice?
Unfortunately this type of ';training'; is the norm in most companies. I would suggest repeating your concerns like a broken record,so to speak and they will have to then acknowledge them.

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